The New Year

Well so far 2007 isnt much to talk about (Blah)

It's snowing outside my window! Oh wait, it just stopped. Oh wait, it started again. It's 18.5 degrees according to my thermometer, so no sledding for on the news they say you will get hurt. But I'm guessing they are canceling schools and there are long lines at Walmart.

 There are way to many idiots out driving to fast with no idea how to drive on snow and ice for instance this morning while walking my dog some retard comes down the street at 40 mph or so and as he goes around the bend his car goes round and round headed towards 3 other cars which he just misses then piles up over the curb and into a park. Then he drives out and back on the street and goes the ample 5mph he should have been doing in the first place only to stop down the road (after waking up and relizing he cant drive) for 5min then turns around and goes home. Hmmmm imagine that!

Christmas Time

You Single?

This weekend, my sister and I (she is 32, I am 36) were dancing at a bar when a male and female in tow, in there early twenties approached us and exclaimed in disbelief, "You two can’t be single."  I replied "Yes, both of us are."  He said "No way, that doesn’t make sense."  I said "The world doesn’t make sense.  Get used to it."

While both of us acknowledge that men and women at a bar are not representative of people as a whole, what I’m ranting about is the caveman philosophy, seemingly shared by males and females both at bars and elsewhere, that all women can be arranged in a hierarchy of desirability that is objective, i.e. the same for all.  The meatcakes then "compete for the best mates".  This system views finding a partner as acquiring a possession or winning a prize, rather than connecting with a person.  If you're picturing them all running across a field battling it out with each other, that's pretty much what I mean.

If things really worked this way, yes!  The objectively "best" mates would be likeliest to be "spoken for".  A simple matter of supply and demand.  But my sister and I, known amongst our acquaintances as attractive, intelligent, kind people, are both single and have been for quite some time.  Could this be because as each of us date various individuals, we are not willing to compromise on the traits of maturity, courtesy and respect?  Or because we are not willing to date just for the sake of having a girlfriend/boyfriend but are waiting for significant others with whom we are truly compatible?  Or because according to the happenstance of our lives up to the present time, the only women/men who have shown interest in us are not good enough for us (and by "not good enough" I mean in terms of the characteristics above), and the women and men we have approached are not secure enough in their own identity to appreciate being pursued?

Say, d'you think we've got some choice in the matter as to whether or not we are single, and it's not just whether a man or woman "picks" either of us?  Stakes claim to property?

Yep, the world doesn’t make sense when you are operating from an outmoded set of preconceptions and "rules" about male/female behavior.  Get used to it and get over it.

Nice Guys

I love this bitch session --

First of all, my compliments to the great people of HBI. You're doing a great job. I was particularly impressed with the 'Spineless Man' story, which read like my biography. That was truly amazing. Although I must say that the comments generated by the 'Nice Guys' page are pretty depressing. It is especially funny how many of them are offended by the page being aimed at 'nice guys', because they never bother with reading(or acknowledging!) the rest, and thus don't understand your definition of 'nice guys'.

I suppose you could change your page about 'nice guys' to a page about 'chauvinist assholes who treat women like objects of their religious worship, and actually believe that they are being nice and feminist by doing so', but that would be too long, and those assholes would not relate to it because they only see themselves as 'nice guys', and will thus never read it. How come so many guys still can't get their acts together? And why are we seeing so many girls trying to reinforce the flawed thinking of these 'nice guys'?

It's truly a society thing, that seems to spin around into a circular motion: first there is the guy, who sees Hollywood movies in which the 'sweet, sensible' type always somehow beats the 'jerk' to the girls

But that's not the only thing! There's also the doormats, the 'victim chicks' who love these chumps putting them on a pedestal. They too watch Hollywood films and soap operas, in which love and sex are regarded in a much different way. Perhaps they've heard Robbie Williams whining about how he just wants to 'feeeeeelllllll reeeaaalll looooooveeee' and think he is actually sending a profound message, when in fact he can screw whatever he wants.

But anyway, the problem with these girls is that they are the ones who keep buying those shitty love songs, and who keep coming onto more enlightened places(say, your forums) to spread the message that they just LOVE nice guys (of course, also ignoring your definition of it). By the time they realise that they are mistaken (because their cunts have been dry since they started adopting these 'morals' at 14 years old),

the 'nice guys' they once convinced to continue their wrong ways are nowhere to be found and apologised to. And of course these guys will eventually get the stick up their ass, to which new spineless women will cling.

The circle isn't entirely closed though, there's always a small hole in it that some people are lucky to escape through. Now, the point is to widen that hole, break through the endless cycle of 'feminists'

These 'feminists', both male and female, usually just try to create a gap between men and women.

[The goal of "feminism" is EQUALITY. It is to shrink, not create or widen a gender gap.]

Guys who give clueless girls 'a break' because girls are 'just weird like that' and girls who pretend that anyone other than their supplicating 'nice guy' is just a 'jerk'

Xanga

Nobody got anywhere in the world by simply being content.